Men dating after a divorce
Once your final hearing has ended and you’ve signed your divorce decree (whether you are happy with the settlement or not), it can feel like a major weight has been lifted from your shoulders.
You are now free to begin a new life as a single man without the burden of court dates, attorney fees or prying into your personal life. However, you may quickly realize that the weight, worry and time spent on the divorce process prevented the reality of your situation from sinking in — you are beginning a new life.
Here are a couple of the common mistakes men make after divorce that can extend the time it takes to move on, cost you extra or even land you back in court. If your ex is no longer your beneficiary by operation of your decree but you have not changed the designation with your insurance plan, the plan will pay to her, and your estate / intended beneficiary will have to sue her to recover the money (in those states that even allow these lawsuits).
Additionally, you have spent a lot of time dividing up your assets, and you need to ensure they go to your intended beneficiaries rather than probate court.
Bad move, says Damona Hoffman, a Los Angeles–based relationship coach whose website, Dear Mrs D.com, provides love-life advice.Though their reasons for divorcing may vary, men whose marriages fell apart are fairly similar—beyond having ex-wives and legal bills that'll keep their attorneys in silk ties for decades.Here, the traits many formerly married guys share—even before their relationships end—with expert advice to prevent husband from joining their club.1. That's because about 70% of the time, it's the wife who files for divorce.Men often take the divorce much harder than women do, and for many men, their ex-wife was the one person they had always trusted to fall back on for support.
Without someone to trust, men often try to deal with their problems alone, pushing away from others who may try to help.This comes with its own set of challenges, but you also need to keep in mind some aspects of the divorce can come back to haunt you.